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Alice Miller war eine polnisch-schweizerische Autorin und Psychologin.

Sie hat in vielen allgemeinverständlichen Werken ihre Ansichten über die Kind-Eltern-Beziehung dargestellt und die Psychoanalyse kritisiert. Deren Triebtheorie bezeichnete Miller als irrealen Glauben, weil die Triebtheorie Traumata der Kindheit als kindliche Phantasien darstelle und die Realität von Kindesmissbrauch und Kindesmisshandlung leugne. Konsequent trat sie 1988 aus der Schweizerischen Gesellschaft für Psychoanalyse und der Internationalen Psychoanalytischen Vereinigung aus. Ihrer Einordnung als Psychoanalytikerin widersprach sie seit Ende der 1980er Jahre vehement und bezeichnete sich selbst zuletzt als Kindheitsforscherin.Am bekanntesten wurde ihr erstes Buch Das Drama des begabten Kindes, das 1979 und danach mehrmals mit Ergänzungen und Überarbeitungen erschien. In ihrem Werk setzte sie sich kritisch mit der Psychoanalyse und anderen psychotherapeutischen und pädagogischen Paradigmen auseinander. Wikipedia

✵ 12. Januar 1923 – 14. April 2010

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Am Anfang war Erziehung

Am Anfang war Erziehung

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Am Anfang war Erziehung

Am Anfang war Erziehung

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„Die größte Grausamkeit, die man den Kindern zufügt, besteht wohl darin, dass sie ihren Zorn und Schmerz nicht artikulieren dürfen, ohne Gefahr zu laufen, die Liebe und Zuwendung der Eltern zu verlieren.“

Alice Miller buch Am Anfang war Erziehung

Am Anfang war Erziehung. Suhrkamp 1980, ebook 2013, PT123 books.google https://books.google.de/books?id=cZg8CgAAQBAJ&pg=PT123&dq=Grausamkeit <br class="br">Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hamburg, Hoffmann und Campe, 1990, Am Anfang war Erziehung. Frankfurt, Suhrkamp, 1980

„Die lebensrettende Funktion der Verdrängung in der Kindheit verwandelt sich später beim Erwachsenen in eine lebenszerstörende Macht.“

Das verbannte Wissen, Kapitel I.3 Das böse Kind – ein Lieblingsmärchen der Wissenschaftler, Suhrkamp 1988
Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hamburg, Hoffmann und Campe, 1990, Das verbannte Wissen. Frankfurt, Suhrkamp, 1988

„Der unbewusste Zwang, verdrängte Verletzungen zu rächen, ist stärker als jede Vernunft.“

Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hamburg, Hoffmann und Campe, 1990. Seite 96
Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hamburg, Hoffmann und Campe, 1990

„Leider werden junge Leute ständig dabei entmutigt, ehrlich zu sein, und mit dem bedroht, was wir Moral nennen. Zuerst durch die Familien, dann die Religionen und schließlich auch durch die Psychiatrie.“

Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hoffmann und Campe, Hamburg 1990, S. 44
Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hamburg, Hoffmann und Campe, 1990

„Hitler kam, wie jedes Kind, unschuldig zur Welt, wurde von seinen Eltern, wie viele andere Kinder damals, destruktiv erzogen, und später hat er sich selbst zum Monster gemacht. Er war Überlebender einer Vernichtungsmaschinerie, die im Deutschland der Jahrhundertwende »Erziehung« genannt wurde und die ich als das verborgene KZ der Kindheit bezeichne, das nie erkannt werden darf.“

Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hamburg, Hoffmann und Campe, 1990. Seite 93
Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hamburg, Hoffmann und Campe, 1990

„Wenn man einem Kind Moral predigt, lernt es Moral predigen, wenn man es warnt, lernt es warnen, wenn man mit ihm schimpft, lernt es schimpfen, wenn man es auslacht, lernt es auslachen, wenn man es demütigt, lernt es demütigen, wenn man seine Seele tötet, lernt es töten. Es hat dann nur die Wahl, ob sich selbst, oder die anderen oder beides.“

Alice Miller buch Am Anfang war Erziehung

Am Anfang war Erziehung. Suhrkamp 1980, ebook 2013, PT117 books.google https://books.google.de/books?id=cZg8CgAAQBAJ&pg=PT117 <br class="br">Abbruch der Schweigemauer. Die Wahrheit der Fakten. Hamburg, Hoffmann und Campe, 1990, Am Anfang war Erziehung. Frankfurt, Suhrkamp, 1980

„Aber wer ist da, um zu helfen, wenn alle "Helfer" ihre eigene persönliche Geschichte fürchten? Falsche traditionelle Moral, destruktive religiöse Interpretationen und Verwirrung in unseren Erziehungsmethoden machen diese Erfahrung schwieriger und behindern unsere Initiative. Zweifellos profitiert auch die Pharmaindustrie von unserer Blindheit und Niedergeschlagenheit.“

Alice Miller: Zitate auf Englisch

“We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people.”

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“I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively--because idealization of his parents was essential for his survival.”

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Quelle: Thou Shalt Not Be Aware : Society's Betrayal of the Child

“Contempt is the weapon of the weak and a defense against one's own despised and unwanted feelings.”

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“One can only remember what has been consciously experienced.”

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Quelle: The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

“If one day the secret of childhood were to become no longer a secret, the state would be able to save immense sums that it spends on hospitals, psychiatric clinics, and prisons maintaining our blindness. That this might deliberately happen is almost too incredible a thought.”

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Breaking Down the Wall of Silence (Abbruch der Schweigemauer) (1990)

“By refusing to forgive, I give up all illusions. Why should I forgive, when no one is asking me to? I mean, my parents refuse to understand and to know what they did to me. So why should I go on trying to understand and forgive my parents and whatever happened in their childhood, with things like psychoanalysis and transactional analysis? What's the use? Whom does it help? It doesn't help my parents to see the truth. But it does prevent me from experiencing my feelings, the feelings that would give me access to the truth. But under the bell-jar of forgiveness, feelings cannot and may not blossom freely.”

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Breaking Down the Wall of Silence (Abbruch der Schweigemauer) (1990)

“Genuine feelings cannot be produced, nor can they be eradicated. We can only repress them, delude ourselves, and deceive our bodies. The body sticks to the facts.”

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“Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: the emotional discovery and emotional acceptance of the truth in the individual and unique history of our childhood.”

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Quelle: The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

“If it is very painful for you to criticize your friends, you are safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that is the time to hold your tongue”

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“The grandiose person is never really free; first because he is excessively dependent on admiration from others, and second, because his self-respect is dependent on qualities, functions, and achievements that can suddenly fail.”

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“Where there had been only fearful emptiness or equally frightening grandiose fantasies, an unexpected wealth of vitality is now discovered. This is not a homecoming, since this home has never before existed. It is the creation of home.”

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“The victimization of children is nowhere forbidden; what is forbidden is to write about it.”

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“Psychoanalysis does not distort the truth by accident. It does so by necessity. It is an effective system for the suppression of the truth about childhood, a truth feared by our entire society. Not surprisingly, it enjoys great esteem among intellectuals… Fear of the truth about child abuse is a leitmotif of nearly all forms of therapy known to me.”

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Breaking Down the Wall of Silence (Abbruch der Schweigemauer) (1990)

“Hard as it is to believe, in the entire world there is not a single faculty in which a degree is offered in the study of psychic injuries in childhood.”

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“In my own therapy it was my experience that it was precisely the opposite of forgiveness —namely, rebellion against mistreatment suffered, the recognition and condemnation of my parents' destructive opinions and actions, and the articulation of my own needs— that ultimately freed me from the past.”

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Breaking Down the Wall of Silence (Abbruch der Schweigemauer) (1990)

“Clinging uncritically to traditional ideas and beliefs often serves to obscure or deny real facts of our life history.”

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The Drama of the Gifted Child (Das Drama des begabten Kindes, 1979)

“It is the resentment of the past, we are told, that is making us ill. In those by now familiar groups in which addicts and their relations go into therapy together, the following belief is invariably expressed. Only when you have forgiven your parents for everything they did to you can you get well. Even if both your parents were alcoholic, even if they mistreated, confused, exploited, beat, and totally overloaded you, you must forgive.”

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Breaking Down the Wall of Silence (Abbruch der Schweigemauer) (1990)

“I cannot conceive of a society in which children are not mistreated, but respected and lovingly cared for, that would develop an ideology of forgiveness for incomprehensible cruelties. This ideology is indivisible with the command "Thou shalt not be aware" [of the cruelty your parents inflicted to you] and with the repetition of that cruelty on the next generation.”

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“The danger does not lie with individuals, however criminal they may be. Far more, it lies in the ignorance of our entire society, which confirms these people in the lies that they were obliged to believe in childhood. Teachers, attorneys, doctors, social workers, priests, and other respected representatives of society protect parents from the mistreated child's every accusation and see to it that the truth about child abuse remains concealed. Even the child protection agencies insist that this crime, and this crime alone, should go unpunished.”

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“The mother can feel herself the center of attention, for her child's eyes follow her everywhere. A child cannot run away from her as her own mother once did.”

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The Drama of the Gifted Child (Das Drama des begabten Kindes, 1979)

“The possibility of change depends on whether there is a sufficient number of enlightened witnesses to create a safety net for the growing consciousness of those who have been mistreated as children, so that they do not fall into the darkness of forgetfulness, from which they will later emerge as criminals or the mentally ill.”

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“But who is there to help when all the "helpers" fear their own personal history? Bogus traditional morality, destructive religious interpretations, and confusion in our methods of childrearing all make this experience harder and hinder our initiative. Without a doubt, the pharmaceutical industry also profits from our blindness and despondency.”

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“The majority of therapists work under the influence of destructive interpretations culled from both Western and Oriental religions, which preach forgiveness to the once-mistreated child. Thereby, they create a new vicious circle for people who, from their earliest years, have been caught in the vicious circle of pedagogy. For forgiveness does not resolve latent hatred and self-hatred but rather covers them up in a very dangerous way.”

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“Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding.”

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